Hi. I'm so glad you're here. This week I'm thinking about my beloved, Jen, who is being displaced from her home and teaching space of nine years at the end of June (in less than two days, at the time this email is getting sent to you.)

Walking into Jen's house is like entering a classroom, your grandmother’s kitchen, your favorite aunt’s wild and weedy crash pad all at once. It’s a physical space that holds the same kind of emotional thrill and comfort of picking up your favorite book and diving in for hours. A space where you know you’ll be held, by Jen herself and by the house-self. Sometimes when I’m here I’ve put my hand on the wall the way you would someone you love.

It’s hard to put into words what it means that I won’t be able to keep coming here, to lean on the door frames, rest my head against the walls, nap on the couch. So, I'm practing holding the feeling that comes with witnessing our beloveds' displacements this week.

In this Nest-house, I learned these things.

How to nap. Rest is a practice.

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There's a kind of food that nourishes, fills something up in you that you didn't know was missing until you took the first bite.

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No one has to be bad, or wrong, in a conflict or situation; everyone has dignity and belonging, just by being here on this earth.

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The feelings I carry around in my body can be held and listened to, as a kind of guidance.

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You can do things like rituals, like making a fire, like holding a ceremony, in ways that are practical and small and deep.

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I didn’t have to know what a different world could look like before I could learn how to live differently in this one.

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Regulation and co-regulation is a kind of magic our bodies do without us even being aware of it.

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Nature is a teacher, a web of relationship that we are already a part of, and that by returning to and building our connections with all of the beings around us, we remember and learn different ways to live.
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Practicing being together, in small ways, means everything.

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Thank you for witnessing these learnings. I wonder, who have you learned important things from, whether they're human or house or that magical combination of the two?

Sending you love from the river,

Kali

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